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AITA for wanting to charge an 11 year old for theft and destruction of property?
So about a week and a half ago my son’s phone was taken from his bag at primary school.
I managed to track it using find my iPhone and it lead me to a house.
From that house I banged on the front door and was answered by a mum. I explained that I tracked my son’s phone to this house and from there discovered her son and 2 of his friends had just been there. She calls him and then I follow her in my car to a second kids house.
At this house all 3 kids are there and I tell him I don’t care who stole it just hand it back and it’s done. All 3 kids swear black and blue that they have never seen it and know nothing about it. I exchange numbers with the mum from the first house and the dad from the second house. Then I have to leave knowing full well one of them has it.
I get home and receive a call from the mum from the first house. She has checked the security cameras from her house and discovered the kid from the second house who swore that they have never had a phone is miraculously holding a phone in the footage. This has already been sent to the dad and next minute I get a message from the guilty kids mum asking if she can come to my house.
Her and her son arrive teary eyed and apologetic. I just ask for the phone back and she shakes her head saying that he has smashed and destroyed it. It was only an iPhone XE so not expensive but as a single mum working full time was my means of communication with my son.
She asks if she can go buy me a phone now but I ask if she just contributes $100 and I’ll find a similar phone off marketplace as I prefer an iPhone as I connect it to mine and can monitor parental controls and other settings. She agrees and is happy to pay that.
It has been over a week now and she has now stopped replying to any messages and won’t answer any calls. Last message I sent was me saying if I didn’t receive payment I would report and charge her 11 year old son. So AITA if I charge him for theft and destruction of property?
Also as a side note I have camera footage, admission of guilt in her text messages and agreeing she would pay as well as her son admitting to the school that he stole it as well. So have enough evidence to go forward.
UPDATE: So after not responding to my messages for over a week I messaged last night saying I was going to the police in the morning to make a report. And the money was transferred this morning. I read all the comments why I didn’t report first and it’s because I guess I waited so long as I still want to think people will do the decent thing and didn’t want to have to go down the police road for a minor amount as they have more important things to do. At the end of the day though I’m not going to raise my son to be walked all over and to stick to your word. But all sorted now.
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⚖️ 주문:
피고는 쌍방과실로 인정됩니다.
📋 판결 이유:
1. 원고는 자녀의 소유물인 휴대폰을 분실한 후, 이를 추적하기 위한 조치를 취한 점은 긍정적으로 평가할 수 있으나, 과도한 압박이 문제를 악화시킬 수 있음을 간과하였다.
2. 피고 측 어린이는 명백한 잘못을 저질렀으나, 그가 11세의 미성년자라는 점과 그 행동이 상대적으로 경미한 범죄에 해당함을 고려해야 한다.
3. 본 사건에서 원고와 피고의 보호자로서의 역량 모두가 부족했음을 알 수 있으며, 이는 분쟁의 원인이 되었다고 판단된다.
💡 권고사항:
- 원고는 이후 자녀의 소유물 관리에 더욱 신중을 기할 필요가 있다.
- 피고 측은 자녀의 행동에 대해 더욱 철저한 교육을 통해 책임감을 심어줄 필요가 있다.
- 양측은 이러한 사태가 재발하지 않도록 서로 소통하며 문제를 해결할 방법을 모색해야 한다.
🎁 보상:
양측은 이번 사건을 계기로 서로의 이해를 돕기 위해 커피 한 잔을 함께 하며 대화를 나눌 것을 권장한다. 이를 통해 서로의 입장을 이해하고, 향후 유사한 사건을 예방하는 방안을 모색할 수 있을 것이다.
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